Today is not a good day.
I've been logging onto social media, looking at one or two posts, foaming at the mouth IMMEDIATELY, and clicking away. The Internet is a 24/7 trigger party once more.
My heart is with Professor Ford and my mind is full to bursting with the millions of things I want to shout to the world as a fellow survivor...but this blog post isn't about that.
This is just an assemblage of coping mechanisms, self-care tactics, and resources that might help you if you're finding today as difficult as I am.
Here they are, in no particular order...
This checklist of basic well-being is printed up on my wall. Are you hydrated? Have you eaten? Have you moved your body? Just keep this nearby to remind you to tend to those needs.
I've found EFT, or "tapping," to be helpful for reducing my anxiety; this audio guide is a good one, simple to follow along with.
Breathe. Here are some of my favorite breathing exercises:
In for 4, out for 8
In for 4, hold for 7, out for 8
In for 4, hold for 4, out for 4, hold for 4 ("box breathing")
4 short sharp sniffs in, 4 short sharp puffs out
You could use this breathing app (I do every morning)
There's also alternate nostril breathing.
Do you need to laugh today? Then I humbly suggest The Shatner Chatner, by Daniel Mallory Ortberg (formerly of The Toast, RIP) - or you could just revisit some Toast archives. I was always a fan of their Dirtbag series (Dirtbag Medea is amazing), all things Two Monks, and Everything What's Wrong of Possums.
After the 2017 Las Vegas shooting, Danielle LaPorte assembled this list of resources for emotional trauma, and there's a lot of good stuff in there. There are also a boatload of soothing, healing practices on the Healing Justice podcast.
I love this self-care comic:
adrienne maree brown's gorgeous spell-poem "Spell for Grief or Letting Go" has gotten me through like 40% of the past year; maybe it'll help you get through today.
If you need to hear someone say this: I believe you. And I'm sorry. And it's not your fault.
Take a walk, drink a water, eat a fruit, or eat the chocolate cake and drink the whiskey if that's what today needs and it won't make you feel worse later, or maybe you decide that it's worth it to feel worse later, or maybe you eat something with more nutrients instead, and ultimately that's for you and literally no one else to decide.
If you need someone to give you the go-ahead to make that emergency appointment with your therapist, this is me giving you that go-ahead.
If you need to play hooky today, play hooky.
Bottom line: do whatever you need to do.
I love you. I'm with you. And you only ever have to get through the next ten seconds.
One last thing:
I was beyond honored to be asked by fellow coach Elenna Benton to participate in her Coaching With Integrity Summit, to talk about some of the ways that coaches (and leaders in general) can buck the status quo and live more in line with our values. It starts October 1st; my talk is on the very first day. I so loved doing this interview with Elenna - can't wait to share it with you. And the other speakers she has lined up are K I L L E R. Sign up here, or see more info on her Instagram page.
I see you. I'm with you. I'm sorry that today is happening. I'm sending you all the strength in the world.
Yours in revolution,